Do you have conflicts in your house all the time? Maybe these fights have become more intense than before, you may not even know how these fights begin. But actually you and your family People love each other and don't want to hurt each other.
Keep in mind that if householders differ from one another, it does not mean that there is a cracks in the family life. Here is how you will solve the gains. Let us consider some of the steps you can take to overcome the conflict.
1. Don't reply back.
Debate occurs when two people respond to each other, but if one person listens to the other instead of responding, the discussion may end. So when you get angry. If you do not respond immediately, you will maintain your dignity and your dignity by controlling yourself. Remember that more important than winning a fight is maintaining peace at home.
"The fire is extinguished when the wood is finished;
2. Understand the feelings of others.
Listen carefully to the other person, do not cling to it or form an opinion about it in advance.This way a fire of anger can be extinguished and peace can be restored at home. Instead of doubting the motive, try to understand his feelings - do not think that he has begun this dispute with the intention of hurting you, perhaps the bitter words in his mouth have gone out of his way. Then because it hurts.
Wear compassion and kindness and gentleness and gentleness and patience
3. Give yourself some time.
If you find it difficult to control your temper, then apologize softly and go out for a while - maybe you can go to another room or take a stroll outside so you can be a little cold. This does not mean you are dealing with the problem or you do not want to talk to others - maybe during this time you can pray to God so that they can work patiently and discreetly. Please support
"Before the dispute arises, settle the matter
4. Speak thoughtfully and softly.
If you say things to help cleanse yourself, it will only make matters worse, so try to say things that are like ointment on his wounds. Instead of telling him that How should he feel, ask him some questions that help you understand the issue better, and then thank him for what he tells you.
The word of the foolish is pierced like a sword, but the tongue of the wise is healthy.
5. Avoid screaming.
If one person in the household does not act patiently, the other may become angry, no matter how hurt you are, refrain from humor, screaming or humiliation. "You don't care about me" or "You never listen to me." Instead, gently tell him how his talk or work has affected you. "I'm very sad when you try to push others, raise their hands, kick them or torture them in any way is not right. Rennes, is to blame or apply in relation to threats.
6. Don't be late to apologize and try to make peace.
Don't forget that your goal is to make peace because of anger. Remember that if you fight someone you both lose, but if you reconcile, you win both. So, admit that you have made a mistake, even if you feel that you are not mistaken, apologize for the fact that you were angry and escalated the fight. Remember that more important than your ego is to have a good relationship with you again.
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