Raising Children: Remember these five things۔

Raising Children: Remember these five things to be a good parent As we raise our children, we are influenced by the style of our parents. This means we raise our children like our parents. We may have learned some good things. But there is more you can learn. Psychologist Philippa Perry, in her book The Book You Wish Your Parents Head Read (a book your parents would have read), has advised people to be good parents. She explains how you can be a good parent so that your children can have a better start in life. At the same time, you should not try too hard for it. What an ideal father is According to a psychologist, to become a good parent, you should follow these five tips: 1. Determining boundaries Yes it will be very difficult because we all love our children very much. But at some point we cross that line. Even if you think that you are allowing your children to be a little too free, you should still set some limits. But how to make love? The answer is in 'I', not in 'you'. You have to make your role clear, not your children's. So that means you have to say, 'I know you want to travel by bus at night, but I'm not ready to let that happen right now.'

No one likes to be talked about like that. So explain yourself, it's important to set boundaries while not scolding your children 2. Accept every mood of your children Our mistake is that we want our children to be happy all the time. It's as if we love them so much we can never see them disappointed. That's why we tell them: "Don't be sad." But it is important that we allow them to have all kinds of moods while they are always with them. We must accept all the emotions of the children so that the children do not become more frustrated when they are sad or angry. Psychologist Philippe Perry says it's not possible for your child to be happy all the time 3. Remember that you are a reflection of your child You are similar to your child. It would not be wrong to say that you are their human reflection. Our dealings with children become part of their personality. If we keep telling them, 'Look, you've got your shoes dirty!', They'll always see your angry face. It is important that you first joke with them and then mention the dirty shoes. You should always try to be happy to meet them. If your children do something bad, don't show them your anger. 4. Every kind of attitude is a way of talking If you think there is something wrong with your child's behavior, remember this: Every type of behavior has a way of talking. Kids want to tell you something with this kind of behavior and that's the best way they can say it. So you should try to find out the real meaning of such behavior and then help them so that they can express what they are feeling without any hesitation. We must accept all their feelings, if they do not seem right. We need to teach children to express our feelings and not worry about what we would do if we were in their place. Everyone is different. 5. Your child is not a project According to psychologists, "Your child is not an exercise that you should deal with quickly." Nor is it a project you can complete in the best way. " "Your child is a person who is unique." Children, young and old, are first and foremost human beings